Becca imagined holding our sweet babies in her arms and singing to them. She pictured teaching them their ABCs, singing songs about Jesus, doing craft projects, playing at the park and taking them to visit grandparents. Her favorite thing to picture was everyone jumping up and down when Daddy got home from work and how she and the children would all go and give him hugs and kisses, just to show him how glad they were to have him home. She loved to think about Troy holding their little angels and loving them tenderly.
Troy always thought about how sweet it would be to see Becca as a mother, caring for the children. He has always been grateful that she wants to be stay-at-home mom, to take care of their children and be there for them. He couldn't wait to see his babies smile and giggle when he would tickle their little feet. He envisioned teaching his children to play, taking them on outdoor trips, giving them horseback rides around the house and helping them make breakfast for Becca on Mother's Day.
We knew parenting would not be easy, but worth every moment. We knew from the beginning that we couldn't wait to be Mommy and Daddy.
What we did not envision were the fertility treatments, the hoping to get pregnant, the waiting and eventually the disappointment. We have wanted children for all these years and never thought we would have difficulty having them. As time passed, we didn't understand why Heavenly Father would keep this great blessing of parenting from us.
Eventually, as we thought of our future family, we both felt the Spirit whisper in our hearts about the blessing and joy of adoption! We knew that Heavenly Father had a different kind of plan for us; a plan that would not only bless our life but the life of a child and the birth mother. Neither of us had thought very much about adoption before, but now it is all we think about. We cannot wait to bring a baby into our loving home. We feel so much joy thinking about the day when a baby will be placed with us.
If you are a birth mother reading this, please know that we are truly grateful for you. We know that we cannot fully comprehend the decision you are making to choose adoption, but we want you to know that we are praying for you daily. We are so thankful for the opportunity to adopt and for the chance that we have to grow our family through your decision.
This is a quote about adoption that is very meaningful to us (from the r house blog):
"’...sometimes I create people who cannot have children so that there are good homes for children that need one.’ My favorite word in that message is “create.” We are not broken, rather, we were designed to adopt. It was Heavenly Father’s plan for us, our mission, our privilege."
- Linsday R.